We have been told once too many times that ‘time heals all’, ‘it will get better with time’ and just ‘give it some time’ in every situation that might’ve emotionally hurt us. Unconsciously, we start believing it and wait on ‘time’ to help us get over the death of a loved one, a breakup with someone we had invested so much time, effort and energy on and to get over our failures too. But does time really help or do we merely use that as comfort and as a reason to continue moping in the name of ‘time will heal all’? It doesn’t get better with time, it’s all up to you.
Let’s think about the people we know personally who can’t seem to get over a dream they couldn’t pursue, a partner they broke up with or someone close to them that passed away, how long has it been since the incident happened? Yes, now that you are thinking about it you see that it’s been long enough. Now, you might also be wondering why it’s such a bad thing to hold on to someone you loved who has now passed away. It sounds cold to expect them to get over that, right? Right. But do you ever sit and consider the psychological, emotional and sometimes physical damage that has on the mourner? They mourn their loved one for so long because they ‘know’ that time heals all hence when the time is right, they will get back on their feet and get better.
What we haven’t thought about though is the idea that time doesn’t actually heal wounds. Think about this in the simplest form: You are a child playing in the yard, you hurt your knee, blood starts flowing. Yes, you cry because yes it hurts and at this age no one has ever told you that time heals wounds, so you don’t even think about it. Instead, you get up and do something about it! You apply disinfecting liquids and cover it with a band aid… life goes on. You forget about the pain until you or someone else touches it and that’s exactly how it is with every situation in adulthood too.
It’s all about perspective. You choose how you want to interpret things. Once you start realizing that it’s all just a matter of choice, you will start to notice how much time you have wasted waiting on time to change everything. Not achieving your goals is a bummer, agreed. But if you choose to take that as a sign that you will never amount to anything and you are not smart or good enough to make things happen for yourself then that’s on you, you will spend the rest of your time just thinking about that and not doing anything about it.
Don’t let bad thoughts and negativity get comfortable with you. Change the way you see things – if someone you loved leaves you, don’t beat yourself up and claim that you will never be good enough for anyone else. Keep an open mind and heart, see this as a chance for you to really get to know yourself and get to know other people too, experiment to experience, explore and soon enough you’ll thank yourself for doing something about it.
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Bad things happen to us all the damn time, you are not special. We all go through it, no matter how big or small ‘it’ may be – we go through it and we grow through it. Move on, do something new, go somewhere you have never been before or introduce yourself to a new hobby, this will encourage you to shift the way you think and see things in a different light.
Things do not get better with time, it’s your perception that changes everything. Don’t forget that it’s all in your head. Choose yourself. Prioritize your mental health and well-being overall. There is no actual way of altering what has already happened, but you can change today and tomorrow in a way that will benefit you just by changing the way you think about what happens to you and doing something about it!
That’s it for now,