Dealing with Depression

Since it is still Mental Health Awareness month, I figured why not write about depression. Not so many people understand what is meant by depression and it frustrates those who are victims of this ‘illness’ so before I go any further, let me give you a breakdown of what depression is. Depression is usually confused and compared with sadness but sadness is merely one of the symptoms of depression alongside self-doubt, overthinking, losing motivation, ignoring responsibilities and distancing yourself from others.

Depression is knowing that you are loved but still feeling as though no one does. It’s being genuinely happy then stopping yourself from being happy because you feel as though you don’t deserve to be. It’s thinking so much about almost everything at once until you are overwhelmed with mixed emotions. It is also about being sad but really struggling to figure out why. I have always thought of depression as demon that comes and visits you every now and then to mentally and emotionally harass you and forces you to smile while it does the harassing. After realizing this I thought, if a prayer can chase away a demon then there must be something that can chase away depression since it acts like a demon. With that said, here are a couple of ways to deal with depression and I hope they work for you too…

Question Yourself

Depression is triggered by the tiniest things so ask yourself, “Why am I feeling this way right now?” – the little notes matter too. Be honest with yourself, if a stranger that didn’t greet you back 2 days ago is one of the reasons then count it too and ask yourself if that really matters now. Also, question yourself what will make you feel better about it – if eating pizza or going for a swim would make you feel better then try by all means to make it happen.

Get Off Social Media 

Get off WhatsApp, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter for a while because that is where you find happy people. No one is depressed or going through anything bad on social media, it’s all people who are trying to convince us that their lives are flawless and when you are depressed, you will fall for that trap. You’ll only feel worse and you will feel lonely. Read a book, watch a movie or even go outdoors for a walk around the block.

Stay indoors

Don’t go out to seek comfort from other people or turn up/drink to avoid thinking. Reality is, you will be jeopardizing yourself by doing that because the next day you will have more to think about and you will probably end up regretting having a good time even.

Stop reading sad quotes

I never understood the logic behind reading sad quotes when you are feeling down and posting them on social media or as statuses/stories. “That moment when you burst out crying in your room and you realize that no one knows how unhappy you are” and “Sometimes all you can do is lie in bed and hope to fall asleep before you fall apart” – I don’t get it… How does it make you feel after posting a sad quote? It does not make sense how that would make you feel better therefore do not do it.

Learn Something New

Learning something new keeps you occupied so the only thing you get to think about is, “how the hell do I do that?” and you focus more on what you are trying to learn. Find YouTube tutorials on whatever you are interested in, whether it’s make-up, sewing or even dancing, find something and get on with it. Pinterest is where you can get inspiration if you really cannot think of anything, you will find something that will grab your attention soon enough.

Treat Depression as Just a Phase

Don’t think that it will last all your life because it really won’t, it will come and go and every time you will get better at dealing with this if you practise these ideas.

Listening to Trap Music

Trap and hip-hop music allows you to get your mind off things and get wild. Soulful music only encourages you to think even deeper, it becomes more like the background music to your thoughts that lead to depression. I have put together a mini trap/hip-hop playlist that I have been jamming lately so just press play on any of these songs and enjoy xox.

30 thoughts on “Dealing with Depression

  1. I love how you modernized this depression article. Most usually talk about finding someone to talk to and you not being alone. It warms my heart to know one of my peers especially from our Black community sees depression as an issue that goes beyond than ‘sleeping it off, you’ll be alright when you wake up’. Thank you once again for acknowledging depression is real!!!! The awareness should continue.. ooh and thank you for the playlist.

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    1. Thank you so much. I’ve been trying to wake people up about mental issues as such, slowly but surely hopefully people in our black communities will finally get it. Glad you loved the playlist 🤗 and thank you for stopping by G💖

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  2. This is a great post Mbalenhle, Love how all the thoughts get together!! In my personal understanding!! people that post sad quotes on social media, don’t even know this sometimes but they tend to look for some form of attention, see if anybody cares. I Could be wrong but its my two cents. Have a great weekend

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    1. I totally get what you are saying and I’m also starting to think they post sad quotes to see if someone will notice that they are going through something, but instead of doing that I just hope they find at least one person they can trust and talk them whenever they need comforting. I’m glad you raised that avtually coz now it’s got me thinking 💖

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  3. This is a wonderful and insightful post, Mbalenhle 👍🏼 thank you for talking about depression 🙏🏼 it’s something that I struggle with. These are some great tips to help deal with the onslaught of negative emotions and other symptoms of the illness. I agree that listening to trap music is an underrated tip! It does help perk me up, oddly enough. I would recommend anyone try that. Learning a new thing is a great step to help combat depression, too. It can be as simple as baking a new dessert or learning how to knit a scarf. Really anything that takes your mind off of the darkness helps. Again, super great post x

    -Helene

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    1. I’m glad l got to help Helene🤗. Depression can be so draining and trying to chase it away is also just as draining but I’ve been practising these tips for a while now and l honestly feel a whole lot better. Now I’m on the verge of getting rid of depression permanently, but hey we gotta take baby steps right? Again, I’m glad l could help💖. Thank you for stopping by🌻

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      1. It did help! I agree that baby steps are the way to go, especially when dealing with depression, which can be delicate and volatile all at once. I’d rather follow steps like these, and do other things that bring me peace and happiness, than have to take medication. although admittedly that is what a lot of people require to get truly better, and that’s fine. It’s just not what I want for me, but who knows what we may need in the future, y’know? And no problem, it’s a great read 🙏🏼✌🏼

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  4. hey, reading your blog really helped me, so much information with a lot of detail, which helped me understand more about depression and many tips which will help deal with depression 🙂 really happy i read something like this, makes you really think that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. thank you again x

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    1. Well hello 🙌 I’m glad you took some time to read and it enlightened you. It is so important that we all keep in mind that we won’t walk in darkness forever, just have to take it one step at a time☺. Thank you for stopping by 🌻

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  5. Perfectly said and made very good points…!!!Many people out there suffering from depression, and I am glad you are giving your best and sharing good thoughts around..Impressed.

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