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There are quite a number of things l do not understand and the more I do my research on those things, the more I actually get confused. Weird. The importance to examine girls to see if they are sexually active or not is just one of those things I struggle so badly to understand.

In some cultures in South Africa (and probably some other African countries too), females have to get their virginity ‘tested’ and in some cases the point of all this is defended by a certain biblical reference about females remaining pure until marriage. Nonetheless, to me, there is absolutely no logical explanation as to why this has to be done.

Growing up, girls are taught to value themselves and know their worth. They are told to respect their genitals and not to let a male touch them – sometimes literally, sometimes figuratively. Why then should their bodies be ‘investigated’? It’s more or less like telling someone not to touch a piece of candy then taking the candy to the forensic scientists to check for fingerprints every now and then. Where does the trust lie in all of that?

Why are females expected to be pure until a certain age? Is it not up to the individual to decide when they want to start being sexually active? Young girls do not know who to talk to about sexually activity because nobody is even expecting them to commit themselves to it yet they are still the ones to blame when they get pregnant. Why do we find it fitting to criticize a young girl that gets pregnant when the only people she can turn to for guidance are misleading friends?

Females are expected to live according to their parents expectations of them – not to sexually interact with the opposite gender until the age of 21 (sometimes beyond that). Nonetheless, we are perfectly fine with males being sexual before the age of 21. So… who are they sleeping with?

We are lenient on the males though, the majority are given sexual advice when an older guardian suspects that they are active. At a particular age, most families give males ‘the talk’ regarding the risks of having sex, the rules and regulations, the dos and don’ts, pros and cons and terms and conditions that apply. On the other hand, females have themselves to depend on since it is not likely for them to be told to sit down and given ‘the talk’ and they will never wake up one day and decide ‘you know what, today is the day I talk to someone about this’.

It is quite impossible to test males for virginity and that fact alone could be a good enough reason for the ‘investigating’ to come to an end. It’s relevance is fading away now, although for me, there never was one to begin with. Let girls be girls, let them live their lives without having to worry about what society will have to say about them once they engage in sexual activity. Preach the importance of self-respect to girls but forget about telling them when to start sexually interacting with the opposing gender – that is beyond your control.

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