The Kind of Person You Should Be

With ‘society’ constantly changing what is deemed normal and how we should be living our lives, it can be hard to catch up. Something new pops up almost every month and we just feel the need to jump into it too. Just because everyone is creating a TikTok account and suggest that you should do it too because you are funny and creative, does not mean you actually have to do it. That is not the kind of person you should be, but hey, let me tell you who you should be though…

Be who you want to be. Sometimes it’s pretty hard to figure out what we actually want, who we actually are and the kind of person we want to be known as. The first step to understanding ourselves is being honest with ourselves and you might be thinking, “Yeah, that’s easy, I’m always honest to myself!” But when you really think about it and go back to previous incidences that might’ve hurt or traumatized you, you will come to realize that at some point during your healing process, you lied about how you were feeling. You lied about getting over your ex who you loved, you lied about being happy and you lied about having a good time at that party.

Get in the habit of asking yourself questions and responding honestly to them to understand what it is that you want, who you are and who you want to be. Change as many times as you’d like to – feel free to experiment with different images of yourself until you have established which one you are most comfortable with. Interested in the hippie life? Try it out, dress like them, live like them and see how that works out for you and if it turns out that you don’t quite like it then try something new. It’s okay to ’try out’ all the identities you are interested in because you will never know what’s really your thing until you try it.

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Another thing that will help you be the best ‘you’ you can be is evaluating the people in your life. Mentally scan all the people that you associate with on a daily basis. Remember, be honest, it doesn’t matter if you have known them since Stone Age, just think about the role they play in your life, how relevant they are and whether they are helping you grow or part of the factors that are holding you back from flourishing. Think about those who are always projecting negativity onto you, yes you give them the best advice you can on what they share with you but bear in mind that it’s easy to consume someone’s energy especially if they are close to you. So, with that said, cut of who must be cut off – you are doing this for yourself.

Now listen, not only should you evaluate the people in your life, you should also have a little sit-down with yourself and evaluate the things that you do and the kind of person that you are. Are you actually happy with yourself? Are you not the toxic one here? Are you going to do something about your unhealthy diet? Why aren’t you getting enough sleep? Think about all the bad habits you want to put a stop to and actually do it and all the good habits you want to start and actually get on with it. Make a list of all the hobbies that you would like to start doing which will also benefit you now (mentally and physically) and in the long run (financially).

Stop doubting yourself – your talents are valid! Don’t be embarrassed about what you are into. So what if you were a big shot and cool troublemaker in high school that is into baking cakes now? That’s your thing, that’s what you are passionate about. Here’s the thing, people are always on standby, ready to judge anything you do or say and you know what’s crazy? No matter how good or bad you are doing, people will still judge you. They will judge you for still being a virgin at 26 and judge you for losing your virginity at 26. They will judge you for being a goody two-shoes and judge you for breaking out your shell and attending parties. You will never win so you might as well do whatever you want to do, whatever feels right at this very moment, do it, be it!

Stop doubting yourself – your talents are valid! Don’t be embarrassed about what you are into

Every time you find yourself wondering who you should be, choose yourself – choose to be you. There’s no fun in living a life that’s not yours, just copied and pasted into your daily routine, you will not enjoy it and it will not help you grow in anyway. The kind of person you should be, is the kind of person you already are and now it’s up to you to decide on what you would like to modify and what to remove because it’s your life and you should never have to feel like you have no control over it. Claim it!