Yes, this is it – what you are about to read is the best relationship advice no one has ever given you and only advice that will guarantee you and your partner a stable and long-lasting relationship.
You have probably seen pictures circulating on social media and articles about “how to stay strong and happy in a relationship”, “10 ways to keep your partner”, “ingredients all perfect relationships need” and you have heard your friends give you advice on what to do after you have just ranted about what your partner has done.
Everybody just feels as though they have PhD’s in handing out relationship advice – well the perfect excuse for this is that we are just trying to help and comfort you. 100% of the time (if not 99.9%) when you go running to your friend, parent or therapist and tell them what your partner has done – whoever you are talking to will automatically give you advice on what to do and what to say and how to say it.
Okay, now are you ready for it? Here is the best and realest relationship advice – Do. Not. Take. Any. Relationship. Advice. From. Anyone!
That’s it, that’s literally it. Don’t take any relationship advice from anyone. The quotes and pictures you see one social media are misleading you into thinking that’s how your relationship should be. If you seek advice from someone, they will give you advice based on how they would handle the situation. If you are asking for advice on what to get your partner as a way of apologizing for what you did – that person would most likely tell you to get what they would get their partner if they were to apologize, assuming that everybody likes the same thing.
So, what exactly should you do now since this article is clearly blocking you from taking any advice from anyone? It’s all on you and your partner. You know and your partner should know what works and what doesn’t work for the both of y’all when it comes to resolving arguments and date ideas y’all enjoy the most.
If texting one another once a week and seeing each other once a year works for the both of you, then do you boo – yes, you will confuse your friends and you will probably be judged by them but what matters is that it works for you. If you don’t consider your partner as being a psychopath when they text you multiple back-to-back messages throughout the whole day, then don’t let any outsider tell you that that’s a sign of a lunatic because you know that’s how y’all communicate and you both like it like that.
If anyone suggests that you to take your partner out to one of the fancy restaurants in the city but you know that your partner isn’t about that life and just wants is a tomato and cheese sandwich and Oros juice – get them exactly that! If the both of you enjoy taking pictures together and posting them, then do it! If y’all don’t like late night phone calls, then don’t do it! It’s really that simple, DO WHAT WORKS FOR THE BOTH OF YOU.
Listen, only you and your person can define what the word “relationship” means to you and you are under no obligation whatsoever to explain yourself to anyone or to make them understand how you do things with your partner. This also emphasizes the importance of communication in a relationship because that is literally the only way y’all will get to know what vibes y’all are into and what y’all both just don’t like. Now stop taking relationship advice from people and turn all your concerns to your partner, if you do not feel comfortable with addressing anything that’s bothering you then just throw the whole relationship in the trash because your partner should make it easy for you to talk to them from the word go.
Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.