DISCLAIMER: THIS ARTICLE CONTAINS THE WRITER’S EXTREME OPINIONS ON THE SUBJECT MATTER HENCE IF YOU HAVE A SENSITIVE SOUL AND MIND AND YOU KNOW YOU CATCH FEELINGS EASILY, I ADVICE YOU TO READ SOFTER ARTICLES I HAVE WRITTEN – SUCH AS MY PREVIOUS POST. IF THIS DOES NOT APPLY TO YOU THEN DO READ ON.
Please don’t read the title and act confused or curious as to what this post is about because as a man and as a woman reading this, you know very well what men put women through and we both know they will never stop until they are dead. I am not a feminist and that might frustrate women who are, nonetheless I am not against it – I’m just not in it at all. While you are reading this keep in mind that I am not bias towards any gender, I am merely stating my opinion on my daily observation. Now that that’s out the way, let’s get into it…
Let’s start off with analysing the basic stereotypes men adopt so confidently and how they act. First of all, they are probably the weirdest creation in the world for constantly seeking validation from their mates – which guy doesn’t feel superior to their mates when they have multiple partners? Having more than 1 partner seemingly makes them feel manly and committing to 1 partner is not so ideal. It doesn’t matter to them how their partner(s) feel, as long as they get what they want and they remain at the top of the food chain. Silly. Should they be blamed for their small minds? I don’t think so.
Way back in the days men were literally taught that the world is theirs – everything on it is theirs and they need a woman besides them to help them conquer the world (but that woman needs to stay behind and below them). Sadly, somehow that mindset has been passed down to guys up to this day. Women are getting more and more liberated, logical thinkers, independent, they are constantly evolving and bettering themselves. Then there are men… never changing and being a disappointment to women and the world overall without even trying. Tragic.
You’d think that feminists and their protests would help men realize how women feel and how they are treated by them but they… just… won’t… learn. Let’s not even talk about the rape culture, physical abuse, catcalling and everything that makes men ‘trash’. Let’s talk about the defensive men that claim, “NOT ALL MEN ARE TRASH!” – are they not the ones that actually feel as though they are the police of what a ‘real’ woman’s body should look like and how women should behave? Are they not the ones that take our solid ‘NO’s as a joke or playing hard to get? Are they not the ones who make women feel uncomfortable when they go silent and stare as the woman passes? Yeeaah, not all men are trash hey?
Men literally think their existence on earth is more important than the existence of women. Their cockiness is unmatched, they are so convinced that women wear make-up and short outfits to impress them. You see them posting statuses and tweets saying, “I’d never let my girl leave the house wearing that” and “Ladies, we love you without make-up”. Goodness me, what level of delusion is this?
Then they also come into our DMs/Inbox with that annoying question – “Hey, when am I seeing your pretty face?”. When men stop us and say they want to talk, they swear us when we tell them we can’t talk and if they don’t swear us, they literally walk besides us and keep nagging – it doesn’t help asking them to leave you alone. When they ask for our number and we say no, they beg for a reason as to why we don’t want to give them. They make unnecessary remarks as we pass, they disappoint and disrespect their partners and feel nothing towards it when the issue is addressed. We cannot enjoy our meals alone at the restaurant without them disturbing our peace.
Seemingly, women were brought on earth to be men’s entertainment, men do not make women feel as though they belong in this world. They do not protect women, they do not fight with women for equal rights, they do not see anything wrong with how they treat and talk to women. You know what’s unfortunate? The idea that men won’t stop until women are all dead. While they are still alive, they will still be harassed by male family members, men will still rape women and get away with it, they will still hurt their partners and not care much, they will still applaud their mates when they are being unfaithful to their girlfriends and wives, they will still feel like they have power over women, they will still linger around our DMs, they will still judge women’s bodies and make them feel uncomfortable and they will still swear women for not agreeing with them. Wild.
I dream of a world where men have self-control, a world where men think before speaking or even acting, where they can express their feelings without feeling any bit less of a man, where men speak up against their mates and a world where women feel a sense of belonging. Until next lifetime, I will keep dreaming.
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Thank you so much dear, will do 🌼
Very sensitive post… There is one and the only way to stop all this kinda things in this world is awakening of men. Till men are unconscious, everything wrong happens because of unconscious men.
No college, no university, no society and religion ever put importance on awakening, no one ever teaches men to be conscious, or direct the energy and thoughts into the right direction… … It is true, human with mind and intelligence is worst than animals… True respect, love, care and gender equality comes when one knows another one as part of him as part of his same nature… This happens only when one is awakened… only an awakened person can see himself in her and when it happens there is no question that he can think or do wrong with any women… 🙂
I completely agree with what you are saying. I think the reason why men are unconscious of what is happening due to their actions is that men aren’t really taught to think, they are taught to do as they please and their parents let them mess up as many times as they please. On the other hand, women are taught a lot, they are controlled and as bad as that is, it has taught women self-control too. I don’t know if it’s too late to teach men anything but some thing has got to happen to change this situation.
And it is also true that there cannot exist a nature where men or women have no sex energy. But if transforming energies which are given by nature in the right direction, in the direction of self-awakening than who say a beautiful world cannot exist if all the energies are transformed not suppressed within than off coz a beautiful living can be possible.
Yet no one taught men to direct the energy into the right direction of awakening and the unconscious men commit wrong with women’s and live a whole life in unconsciousness/unaware…..
I have observed in my life, not even young people but married men’s of age reaching nearly 50 are still full of lust, even though body is running out of energy but mind is full of lust because of so unconscious deep sleep they forget to live in the present in the awaken state… have no understanding that life is reaching the end, what they have done for what dey have come here no idea about it, they still are in so unconscious sleep, a state of mind which never let them come out of sleep and see real self….. they came and go without awakening without knowing self and till one is not able to know SELF there is no way that he can know or respect other Self.
It is not too late if the right step is taken and right knowledge is provided. It is not right to let the boys do what they want to do and girls are taught to have self-control or not wear this that…. these are just shitty things in societies to put boundaries on girls and freedom on boys… Change is required and change is required at the individual level…
Being a BOY, I Love, Respect and Care every woman because I know women are not the only body but beyond the body, Open Eyes are needed to see beyond the body, and when eyes can see she is same, her being is same as mine…. How can be I wrong ever with myself that exist in you…
With all respect, I have only one line to say today and forever that is… “I KNOW GOD EXIST BECAUSE YOU EXIST…”
Be happy, Keep smiling… 🙂
Thank you for this!
We (men) have a lotta listening to do. Most times the first reaction is to be defensive, which does absolutely nothing to change the status quo.
You are quite right Tyson, men become so defensive when we tell them about our concerns regarding them but hey sadly we just have to get used to it and live with it.
I love this post! I always admire the way you put your opinion across. It’s unfortunately so relatable. I am SICK of guys just gawking at you as though it’s acceptable. I’m tired of people making excuses and saying ‘oh we can’t even look at a woman now’ whatever. And there is such a domination with men controlling. I see it all the time and women being seen as men’s possession. I had a guy yesterday writing me stupid messages on Instagram like ‘hey queen Laura’. I mean…..!! x
Laura, the way men feel like they literally own us and we owe them really breaks my heart. What’s super wild is that they seen nothing wrong. To them, this is how things should be – we allow them to disrespect us and the world keeps going ’round 💔
I’ve let so many men treat me bad or not show me respect. But one of my best friends is a straight guy and he’s so respectful to women and believing we’re equal. It gives me some hope, but I am definitely not going to let another guy just waltz in and make me feel bad again. x
Great post babe, thank you for sharing your thoughts.xo
And thank you so much for reading 💖
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Thank you dear 🌼
So you just generalized all of us including me😭😭okay Mbalenhle the male species are sorry
Imagine apologizing on behalf of men who aren’t sorry 😅. Let it go Deshi, just tell us to get over it or get used to it 💔
I wont apologize for what I don’t do
Lol. You just apologized on behalf of men and I’m telling you that they aren’t sorry 😅💔
“I dream of a world where men have self-control, a world where men think before speaking or even acting, where they can express their feelings without feeling any bit less of a man” that’s that on that. You took the words right out my head. We need to come to terms with the fact that we as women are truly on our OWN
Sadly, we are on our own. But what’s sadder is that women are also against each other. It’s a very complex world 💔. Thanks for stopping by sis 💕
See I was reading this like ‘??? bit unfair?’ But nope as I read on I realised that’s my naive idealism speaking- haven’t actually yet been with a guy or been interested in a guy who didn’t eventually start showing these traits! I think it’s important that people do share this stuff, even if it’s considered controversial! Keep going girl💪
Where I’m from (South Africa) you really don’t even have to date a guy to see these traits because strangers, guy friends and male family members show you how cruel they are from a very young age. So we basically grow up terrified of men 💔. Thank you so much for reading, I’m glad you were enlightened 🌙
You make some lovely points and I love your writing style. For the reasons mentioned above, this is why I’ll likely always remain a hopeless romantic. Men are…. *sighs* *sips tea* 🍵
Thank you hun, for some odd reason I still have hope that the world will be a better place but every single day men just keep reminding me that they ain’t worth believing in😂💔
I’ve still a copy of the S.C.U.M. (Society for Cutting Up Men) Manifesto around here some place. It was written by Valerie Solanas somewhere in the late 1960s. It is well worth remembering that gender roles are something that needs to be addressed by all societies before we can truly claim growth in social justice. Keep writing!
You are quite right, the only way we can move forward is if we all become conscious of how gender roles are unfairly distributed. Thanks for stopping by John 🍃
This is all so true and so right!! Your mind is so amazing and your talent so precious!! Hugs!!
Thank you so much for your kind words 🌼
i can totally relate, i was watching a documentary on sex slaves a few days ago and the woman was interviewer a prisoner who had raped over 900 women who were kidnapped and sold to soldiers… and when he was justifying himself he said ‘i couldn’t control myself.. she was there so i could not stop myself’ IT IS SO RIDICUOUS, women think 10000 times before every action yet men meerly use the excuse that ‘they couldnt help’ themselves… sigh.. however there are some very amazing gentlemen out there too, just not a lot!
That is shocking!💔 And to think that he never even felt guilty and realised that what he was doing is wrong over 900 times, wow. A friend of mine once told me that the pastor at her church warned women to stop wearing short clothings because men will be tempted, I was so surprised that a pastor would say that 💔. Nonetheless, this is what we have to put up with, sadly we co-exist with men and that’s not something that will ever change.
sadly i can quite believe a pastor said that, in many religious situations it is solely on the women to prevent men from feeling the twisted way they do, by covering themselves.. infact once in a debate i was taking part in regarding sexual harassment women actually said the woman who was harassed… ‘asked for it’ by wearing ‘skimpy’ clothing’… how about men just use their brains and not act like 5 year olds x i’m glad you did a post about this x
I couldn’t agree more with what you’ve written babe. I will be sharing this religiously!🙌🏻 Well done on such a great piece!💛
Thank you so much Tori. You are greatly appreciated hun! 😭💕
I am from India and I can so relate to what you wrote. Whole South-East Asia is a playground for predatory men. This is a sad world we live in.
And it’ll be kinda impossible to get them all to start acting and thinking differently over night 💔. It saddens me how women can be seen as nothing but prey to some men.
I could not agree more with what you just said. And I just watched a documentary on Netflix that discusses this. Seeing men that have self-control is very rare nowadays.
Very rare💔.. Men seem to always want power, to be listened to and respected but they can’t even respect a simple ‘No’. Saddening really 💔
This is such a true post! Couldn’t have said it any better myself
They just don’t seem to get it
Hopefully as time goes by they’ll learn and start to change 🌼. Thanks for stopping by Haya 💖