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You Are the One You’ve Been Looking For

June 20, 2018 in Articles, Motivational - 2 min read

It’s quite normal for us to fantasize about ‘the one’ – that one person who will complete us, reciprocate our love and for some odd reason, when we fantasize about ‘the one’, they hardly have any imperfections. How unreal. Anyway, here’s something to consider – what if the person we are looking for is really just within us?

Who doesn’t feel misunderstood? Most of us do, right? But the only person who actually has enough time to really get to know us and understand why we can be shitty sometimes is ourselves. Your flaws, those little imperfections that make you feel insecure and uncomfortable around others… You see all those? Yeah well guess what? You don’t really have to feel that way, the moment you start accepting yourself just the way you are and loving every little thing about yourself, you will see how your self-esteem will shoot up.

Don’t you just sit around sometimes and wish you could meet someone who won’t judge your past, someone who won’t judge your wild future plans and someone who will be down for you every time you are in need of support? Quit wishing because that person is deep inside of you. Be your main supporter and help yourself achieve those goals. If you master that ability to be there for yourself, giving up will seem almost impossible.

We want to be spoiled, taken care of and for some of us, we want some to take care of. We don’t have to look that far and wait until Jesus comes back because that someone is us, let’s spoil ourselves with all those things we have been wanting, let’s make ourselves happy and let’s take care of physical and mental health.

You may be good to people and feel like you deserve the ultimate best but unfortunately life doesn’t always work like that, it’s usually up to us to give ourselves what we feel like we deserve. The one you have been waiting for has been in front of you all along.

24 Comments

  • Thabiso Khoza June 20, 2018 at 02:31

    Quite insightful. You’ve grown so much 💛

    • Mbalenhle June 21, 2018 at 19:07

      Thank you so much Thabiso. Haha I’m glad you think so 😄💖

  • David Harris June 20, 2018 at 05:21

    This was so good. I agree. Sometimes we have to first look to ourselves for what we desire.

    • Mbalenhle June 21, 2018 at 19:08

      Because we are probably all we need right?😊 Thanks for stopping by David

  • Mariam Shittu June 20, 2018 at 10:56

    This is so beautiful. Thanks for this!!!

    • Mbalenhle June 21, 2018 at 19:09

      I’m glad you enjoyed sis 💕

  • Cherylene June 20, 2018 at 12:27

    Until we start seeing and believing that we truly deserve what we expect others to give us we won’t get it. We must learn to be good to ourselves in thoughts, words and deeds. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

    • Mbalenhle June 21, 2018 at 19:10

      That is quite true Cherylene, I think we neglect ourselves so much because we were kinda taught to look for love from other people 💕

      • Cherylene June 21, 2018 at 19:36

        Very true! Thankfully, we can learn to be better to ourselves.

  • Deshi Nenkinan Nehemiah June 20, 2018 at 18:14

    👏👏👏The depth of truth here is overwhelming. Great Job Mbalenhle. Till we find our significant others and even when we find them (cause we might an will lose them), we are our number one fan

    • Mbalenhle June 21, 2018 at 19:12

      True! It isnt guaranteed that people will stay for as long as we wish they could and we are actually our longest commitment🍃

  • 🌹V.O.L June 20, 2018 at 22:17

    So timely. Thanks for the inspiring words

    • Mbalenhle June 21, 2018 at 19:13

      And thank you too hun, glad you enjoyed 💖

  • Mbali Gwacela June 21, 2018 at 08:09

    I loved reading this piece

    • Mbalenhle June 21, 2018 at 19:13

      Thank you Mbali, thanks for stopping by too 💕

  • The All Of It Blog June 21, 2018 at 13:07

    I always love reading your pieces <3
    sareena
    http://www.theallofitblog.wordpress.com

  • Bryan Fagan June 28, 2018 at 16:50

    It’s all about growth and finding those who will grow with you.

  • Beauty and the Being June 29, 2018 at 07:45

    So beautifully written 🙂

    Love,
    Ankita
    http://www.beautyandthebeing.com

  • ONY July 7, 2018 at 11:54

    Wow
    💕

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