20 Things I Have Learned In 20 Years

February 9, 2017 in - 2 min read
[09 February] 20th Birthday

    1. It is all in what you believe – If you believe that drinking water will heal you from the headache, it will. 
    2. Chocolate is addictive. 
    3. People on TV are not in the TV itself. 
    4. There is so much beauty in the world, but we have gotten used to looking at what is wrong and all the flaws of it. 
    5. Sunflowers are huge, tall and one of the most beautiful flowers to exist. 
    6. It is okay and safe to live a life that very few people understand – it will help you sleep at night. Trying to keep up with how society claims we should live our lives is very exhausting. 
    7. The passing away of somebody close to us changes us. However, it is not hard to accept their death we just choose to be hung up on it, hence hurting ourselves. 
    8. Being your genuine self attracts those who are genuinely attracted to you. 
    9. We all value different things. An A+ might not mean anything to you but a C+ might mean something huge to another person. 
    10. A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle. 
    11. Two people may spend the entire day together and experience it differently. 
    12. We are unconsciously influenced by the people and pages we follow on social networks. 
    13. Hugging a person who is hurt or crying only makes matters worse. 
    14. It is all about perspective; a sunset to someone might be the end of a day. To someone else, it could be the start of a new day. 
    15. If you want to collaborate with Beyonce or Kanye go for it, email them. They might never read your email but at least if you never make it, you did your part. 
    16. People find it hard to love themselves because they see perfection in other people. 
    17. We are not the same person when we are hungry and when we are not hungry. 
    18. Everything that happens to us (no matter how big or small it may be) is supposed to happen (even if it is bad). 
    19. ‘Being’ more is better than ‘having’ more. 
    20. Time heals nothing. Only your mind can bring change. 


  • The_Golyan April 12, 2017 at

    That was a great post!
    And now on that topic, here’s what people say and what my blog says to that! Hope you’ll enjoy!


    Also things that are wrong with the world in this context,

    Do check it out,
    And a belated birthday!😁

  • shoaib_m_i_s_m_i March 31, 2017 at

    Bellons,a good tips for the great happiness.

  • shruti502 March 28, 2017 at

    Greetings on turning 20!Wish you a very bright future ahead!Great post.

  • giamorina March 26, 2017 at

    I turned 20 February 15th ❀️ #Februarybabies

  • Untraveled Routes March 22, 2017 at

    It’s a beautiful post ❣️❣️ those are really cute pictures especially the last one. Cheers, Charu

    • Mbalenhle March 26, 2017 at

      Thank you so so much 😊☺

  • Aditi Singh March 16, 2017 at

    Great post…. πŸ‘
    Happy birthday 😊

  • thegeckoonline March 14, 2017 at

    I loved reading this! And yup, chocolate is addictive (unfortunately for my health)!
    Your blog is amazing! πŸ™‚

    • Mbalenhle March 26, 2017 at

      Oh my, this is such a delayed response 😭. Thank you so so so much. I truly appreciate it πŸ’˜

  • mexploring March 6, 2017 at

    So many lessons in only 20 years! You go, girl!
    Number 17 is my favorite, haha. Took me so long to learn that I am not the same person when I am hungry :)))

    • Mbalenhle March 6, 2017 at

      Haha. We are all much friendlier when we aren’t hungry hey. Thanks for reading πŸ™‚

      • mexploring March 6, 2017 at

        Yes, and some of us can be a mild disaster when low on blood sugar :))

        • Mbalenhle March 6, 2017 at

          And that is so me!

          • mexploring March 6, 2017 at

            How I guessed! haha
            (no, it was me I was writing about!)

  • Anna Waldherr February 28, 2017 at

    A fine list for some just 20 y.o.! Wishing you love and happiness, A. <3

  • TheThingsILearnt February 28, 2017 at

    It cant be summarized in a better way!! Thank you so much for sharing with us..
    My favourite is “19.β€˜Being’ more is better than β€˜having’ more”.

    have a great Day and God bless you!

  • equinoxio21 February 28, 2017 at

    20th birthday? My, my! Many happy returns of the day as the Brits say. πŸ™‚

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  • oldpoet56 February 27, 2017 at

    I am impressed with you young lady. You are bright and you seem to have very good ‘common sense’ for one so young. Congratulations on turning 20 earlier this month. I like your concepts on algebra/math, some of their theories have never made any logic to me either. I like most of your 20 points of knowledge/understanding. Who knows, you may grow into being one of the world’s top Philosophers.—ted

  • CLEvangelism February 24, 2017 at

    I really like this: Two people may spend the whole day together yet experience it differently.
    So true, but no one ever thinks about that.
    As for everything happening for a reason, that’s true, too. You may (or may not) like this post: https://clevangelist.wordpress.com/2015/06/22/everything-happens-for-a-reason-or-why-im-like-this/

  • TheTypicalBeautyBlog February 18, 2017 at

    WOW, again, you are so calming to read – these are numbered bullet points but it feels so spiritual! I LOVE SUNFLOWERS! & I am a firm believer in mindset is EVERYTHING. πŸ’‹ p.s Love the thing about collab-ing with Beyonce or Kanye! thats a great mindset to have, being more is definitely better than having more! You go girl! πŸ’•


    • buddingregardless February 19, 2017 at

      I was so surprised when I first saw a sunflower and this happened very recently actually, I honestly had no idea they are so beastly πŸ˜ƒ. Thank you for your kind words πŸ’—

  • dtills February 16, 2017 at

    HI and happy birthday a little late (my birthday was feb 6 but I am not 20!). I love your list!
    Thanks for stopping by my blog and checking it out!

  • LivingOutLoud February 15, 2017 at

    Happy Birthday!!! You are a wise young woman and you have a beautiful, bright future ahead of you! I hope this year will be absolutely amazing for you!!!

    <3 Alana xoxoxo

  • theorangutanlibrarian February 9, 2017 at

    Happy birthday- awesome post!

  • Awande February 9, 2017 at

    Happy Birthday Mbali 😘

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